I have made a lot of mistakes in my 26 years of existence; thus, I have a lot of regrets. Poor choices in romantic relationships, self-destructive behavior, etc. But the one thing that sticks out for me is a friendship with a particular person.
What I discovered during our friendship
This person had deep-seated trust issues. They were possessive of me having other friends, to the point that even missing a bus ride home with them was a point of contention. I had to walk on eggshells around them because they were especially sensitive. I always had to be the bigger person—I justified it by saying that they were too young and less mature than I was.
Gelo was always annoyed at my friendship with that person because he knows that they don’t treat me as well as I should be treated. He wondered why I bothered to keep up my friendship with that person for so long.
In the end, I had decided that enough was enough. I didn’t maintain the friendship and let it wither away. That person unfriended me on Facebook and whenever I see our photos on Facebook Memories, I delete them.
I know they probably see me as a monster who broke their trust, but it was and is for the best. They saw me as their best friend, while I felt I could only show them the parts of myself that weren’t ugly or damaged. That’s not fair to either of us.
When our friendship ended, I learned to value myself more and not compromise on what I need in meaningful platonic relationships. I learned that the hard way. Still, I regret forging that friendship because it simply drained me emotionally over the course of 1+ years.
If you have a toxic person in your life, evaluate what value they bring to your growth as a person. Don’t make the same mistake I did by prolonging your agony.