Friends,  Positivity

I almost flaked on plans to have a wonderful night out

When I’m in a depressive slump, I tend to shut myself off from people. My psychiatrist told me that I should follow through with plans, regardless of how I feel on that day. He said that it would help me feel better.

He understood that it takes more energy for a depressive person to do this, but he stressed the point that isolating myself and lying prone in bed is not helpful, and only serves to reinforce my loneliness.


Last weekend, I went for after-shift drinks with my friends from work. I tried flaking out, but I decided to join at the last minute (literally the last minute: I was shutting down my PC to head home).

It might be an overstatement to say that we had drinks: we mostly just ate a lot of food (like, a lot) with 2 bottles of beer each. As my nights out tend to go, it was pretty tame.

night, city, lights

The good old days of my hard drinking are behind me. We spent a few hours chilling and bonding over experiences, both shared and varied.

Those few hours of meaningful human interaction with some wonderful people were a much-needed reminder to me that I am not alone. That regardless of our different situations in life, we are all humans, friends who empathize with each other.


Those few hours of meaningful human interaction with some wonderful people were a much-needed reminder to me that I am not alone.

In that moment, I fully understood what my psychiatrist meant about following through with plans. Silently, I thanked him for this push.

Ela is a twentysomething who is constantly getting stuck in self-destructive behavior and bouts of low self-esteem. She struggles with depression and writes to relieve herself of her feelings. Sometimes she even blogs about other things like makeup and positivity. One of her pieces was published in the Inquirer Young Blood in October 2017. She likes cats, dogs, and sometimes even people.

3 Comments

  • Milly Schmidt

    Thanks for sharing this! I really need to get out of the house more and connect with others! I keep saying I don’t hang out with my friends that often anymore because ‘I’m too poor’, but that’s a total lie. Even though I LOVE socialising and drinking with my friends, I’m currently a hermit living a hermit life hahaha.

    • Ela Kaimo

      Same here! I use the “money” excuse, too. Honestly, I love spending time alone in my room with my cats, just watching Criminal Minds and writing. But there comes a time when we hermits must come out of the cave, haha!

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